What a fit and fabulous Friday! Don’t you agree?
I have been very much enjoying my summer break. My two main focuses are planning my vow renewal wedding and staying on my fitness game. Planning this huge event has proven to be very stressful, so I’m happy that I have some kind of release.
With that in mind, my wedding is also serving as motivation. I want to look my absolute best. I want my dress to fit amazingly, and most importantly, the pictures! The pictures will last a lifetime and I want to be able to look back and be proud. I am always finding ways to get motivated. First, it was my health. Second, was to be bikini ready. Right now though, all I can think of is “fit for the dress, fit for the dress.” Lol
Speaking of motivation, the most common topic that is brought to my attention is getting and staying motivated. Probably one of the hardest things to do because it requires consistency. The easiest way to discover what motivates you the most is to have a serious heart to heart with yourself. Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself out loud, “why do I want this?” Answer honestly out loud so you can hear yourself say it. That’s right, hear yourself say it. You don’t have to shout it out loud, unless you feel compelled to, but say it loud enough to really sink in. Your answer must be honest and truthful and for the right reasons. For example, “I want this because I want to feel at home in my own skin. I know I am beautiful. I just want genuine confidence.” Your reason for wanting it has to be for you. If you’re trying to do this to please someone else, it will never work. Choose your words carefully. Whatever you choose to be your motivator has to be strong enough to talk yourself into completing your goal. “I want to be fit for summer” isn’t a bad motivator, but it may not be the strongest for you if that is not all you want out of this. Customize your weight loss journey to you and nobody else. Make it about you. Make it a big deal. This is your life! If you think about it every day, then obviously it’s what you really want. It is so unhealthy to deny what your heart desperately desires. What is your ultimate goal?
My ultimate goal is having great health. Yes, I am healthy now, but just because I’m okay now doesn’t mean it’s okay for me to slowly slip into old patterns. It doesn’t mean that it’s okay to exercise less and relax my diet. I don’t even feel like I’m on a diet because this is just how I eat now. I don’t miss eating the way I used to. I know better now. If I stopped or eased up, all of this would have been a waste. The reason my health improved was because I did what I had to do to get it that way. The reason my health stays in good standing is because I stay working at it. This is the big picture. I know what awaits me if I don’t continue. My genetics are beyond my control, but I stand a better chance if I do every thing in my power to lower my risks. I can accept if I unfortunately meet my inherited health issues even though I tried my best to prevent them; however, I cannot and will not let my genes have the best of me because I decided to give up or not do anything about it. My work may never be done, but I am still happy. It’s not like I’m not satisfied and that is the reason I keep going. I continue because I love this life. I love what I get out of it each and every day.
In those two pictures, I can see a difference beyond the obvious physical signs. My smile is genuine. I’m overflowing with joy and confidence.
Regarding motivation, I encourage you all to take plenty of photos along your journey so you can really the differences you’re making. The farther apart in time the photos are taken, the more dramatic they will be. You won’t be able to contain yourself, I promise. You’ll be like me wanting to actually take pictures of yourself wearing only a sport’s bra and shorts! In the beginning, I was a “workout in yoga pants or capris” kind of girl. These days, I’m all about the shorts. I love my legs! I love seeing my muscles flex up and engage. I love wearing tank tops to the gym because I really admire my arms. I really appreciate my body because it is capable of so many incredible amazing things. And so is yours.
And let’s just be clear, those pictures of me up there are not my after photos! Those are just my during photos 😉 As I said just moments ago, my work is not done yet. I have big aspirations.
Alright, now I think I’m gonna post one of my favorite statuses that I posted about a week ago. It’s been all I can think about it and I think it will help a lot of you put things into perspective.
Reality is this: you can’t not work hard and not see progress, yet it is possible to be 50% committed (which isn’t really commitment) and expect to see zero progress. It makes me laugh because fitness is funny like that. It knows when you’re trying to cheat it lol. Trust me, I have been there done that and tested it. I was workin my butt off in the gym, but for whatever reason thought it was okay to slack on my diet. After being all kinds of frustrated I had to be real with myself. Best thing I’ve ever done.
Me and my wonderful husband, James, were in the kitchen getting ready to make dinner after we came home from our gym date and he was just looking at me. I had my shirt off cause I was feelin good and happy with all those endorphins giving me a buzz and he says, “You aren’t even the same person anymore. You don’t look like the girl I fell in love with.” A bizarre thing to say lol, but he explained further what he meant. He was very sweet and reassured me that I am still the love of his life. But you know what, he’s right. I don’t look like that person anymore because I’m not the same person.
I hope I’ve inspired you to get the discussion with yourself going. Remember to be honest. Really find out what it is that this lifestyle can do for you. It’s really important to be consistent. 1 week or 1 month is a great start, but that’s just it, a start. You have to keep going. You won’t get all you want to receive in just a short amount of time. Think of how long you’ve been living the way you have. That might just be how long it is going to take you to reach your goals. I’ve been on this journey for almost 3 years and I’m still not done! Don’t let that discourage you though. The sooner you start, the sooner you reach your goals and are living your dream.